When most people hit a setback on the way to a goal, something predictable happens: stress spikes, frustration turns inward, and a quiet question surfaces — what’s wrong with me? It’s tempting to give up, turn back, or start over. Again.

I don’t respond that way anymore. Not because I don’t feel it — I do — but because I’ve come to understand something about how change actually works: resistance isn’t a sign you’re doing it wrong. It’s part of the process. Fighting it, or trying to muscle past it, is usually what wears people down and sends them in circles instead of forward.

I learned this the hard way, during a long divorce that brought financial and emotional chaos into my life and my kids’ lives. I remember realizing that if I wanted the relationship with my children I’d always dreamed of, I couldn’t keep doing what I’d been doing. I needed real skills for navigating resistance, difficult emotions, and conflict — or I’d lose the people who mattered most to me.

So I began a lifelong journey of training and mentorship to master the change process, especially in high-stakes, emotional situations. When I started seeing the results in my own life — stronger relationships, a renewed sense of productivity — I knew I had to share this work with others.

I do this through private 1-1 coaching programs and by speaking to organizations interested in supporting real, lasting change.

Check out the links below to learn more.